"The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis for understanding much of what is not shared between them, and lessens the threat of their difference."
I’m not sure who said "Friends are God’s apology for family" but whoever said it could well have been speaking of Gay people. Not that every Gay person is estranged from family, but certainly there is a time in ever Gay person’s life when he must consider that the loss of family is a distinct possiblity. It was, for me personally, the final decision I had to make in my move to come out — to myself and the world: Was I willing to say goodbye to my family? Was I prepared for them to reject me entirely?
"Oh you gotta have friends!"…Bette Midler
So we are putting out a Call to readers for essays and articles, poetry and art that expresses the special relationship that "friend" represents.
Old friends? Young friends? Boy friends? Girl friends? Do you sleep with friends? Do we have straight friends? Can you be friends with lovers? Who’s your "best friend"? What do friends mean in your life? How many friends have you lost? How do you make new friends? In a community, like ours, that is constantly coming out of erasure, from generation to generation, are friendships how we keep the palimpsest readable?
Do GLBT people have a different idea about friendship?
Do we have something new to add to the discussion?
Tell us all about your friends.
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You, too? Thought I was the only one." C.S. Lewis